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•Genius is born--not paid.
Oscar Wilde
Гений должен быть рожден, а не проплачен.
Оскар Уайл.
“Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumblebee, the
small child, and the smile on faces. Smell the rain, and feeling the
wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your
dreams.” Paulo Coelho.
Жизнь полна красоты. И ты обрати на это внимание. Заметь шмеля,
маленького ребенка и улыбающиеся лица. Вдохни запах дождя и почувствуй
ветер. Проживи свою жизнь на полную силу и борись за свои мечты. Пауло
Коэльо.
Children demand a
great deal of attention, time and patience, so, if you are not
ready to devote all that to your baby, it is better not to hurry
There are many families where both parents keep working after
giving birth to their baby It is similar to the situation with a
single-parent family, when a father or a mother hardly have
enough time and neglect their children's upbringing. In such
cases most of the time the child has to spend on his own or with
his friends. Due to the fact that he has not got any guidance
from his parents he may be involved in some bad companies which
commit violence or even crime and become alcohol or drug
addicted. When the parents discover that, it's usually too late
to change anything.
On the other
hand, there is a different situation when the parents treat
their children too strict and don't give them any freedom at
all. In this case the children may become pariahs among their
peers. Constant bans may increase the risk that the child will
grow up insolent and defiant. This causes another big problem —
lying. The child is forced to lie to the parents because of the
fear to be punished. It can be anything from putting on make-up
in the girls' room at school to stealing.
Some children
rebel against discipline and family values. They listen to a
loud music, wear inappropriate, to their parents' mind, clothes,
dye their hair in inconceivable colours, have all their bodies
pierced and tattooed trying to show their independence and
establish their identity. They want to be treated as adults, but
they are not ready to take all the necessary responsibilities.
It doesn't mean that your child is bad and he will become a
criminal. Of course, not! It only means that your child is in
his transitional age and he is in need of your understanding and
support.
But how to handle
such behaviour? Parents should become his close friends. First
of all they should learn to respect his interests. Try to speak
with him as often as possible, offer some parent-child
activities like shopping or going in for sports. It is worth
involving the child in discussing some family questions, just to
show that he is a full member of the family. Moreover, children
in their teens are very vulnerable when they are criticized in
public, so try to avoid it. Parents should always be honest and
sincere with their child; otherwise it would be unfair to
require the same from him.
Too authoritarian
parents can't do any good to their children as well as parents
who overindulge all the child's caprices. Overindulgence may
lead to the same results as negligence. There are parents who
are afraid of hurting the child by banning something when it is
necessary. Such parents risk becoming powerless in the family
and losing control over their children who may become spoiled
and capricious.
It demands to
make a great effort from both parents and children to reach
mutual understanding. There are many different opinions on the
question of treating children if they disobey their parents, but
every parent should decide for himself what will be best for his
child and set him on the right path.
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